Hi just wondered what others thoughts are on having a holiday abroad without your children.
We have been toying with the idea of having a holiday abroad next year as a couple and leaving our two children at home (they will be nearly 18 and 13). Our eldest has said she wants to stay at home and not come with us and the youngest has said he would rather stay at home with his sister than come with us on his own (Are we officially old fogies now??)
We have been together for nearly 20 years and never had a break away together as a couple apart from one weekend for a birthday treat, we have never had the luxury of grandparents/family who babysit like others may have so have always had our children with us, which is right we're the Parents, it comes with the job!. However it would be lovely to have time away as a couple, my eldest is sensible and trustworthy and the youngest would relish not being nagged at to tidy his room or get a shower for a week!
So why do we feel so guilty even thinking it would be great to have a break alone??
It's a difficult one, and at the end of the day it comes down to personal choice and what 'you' feel comfortable with. My Ex MD had a two children and money wasn't really an issue with them, so they took one holiday as a couple to somewhere like the Maldives and then another holiday with the Children some other time during the year.
My son now holidays with his GF, but when he was younger If I went on holiday then so did my son, I don't think I would have enjoyed myself without him, and wouldn't have occurred to me to leave him behind - but that's me, and it's not wrong to want to spend some alone time with your partner it's only natural.
I hope whatever you decide you enjoy your holiday
My son now holidays with his GF, but when he was younger If I went on holiday then so did my son, I don't think I would have enjoyed myself without him, and wouldn't have occurred to me to leave him behind - but that's me, and it's not wrong to want to spend some alone time with your partner it's only natural.
I hope whatever you decide you enjoy your holiday
Difficult one really, I guess it depends a lot on the kids, it's a lot if responsibility for the 17 year old to be looking after the 13 year old.
You know your children best. Some 17 year olds would not really be capable to look after a 13 year old- others would manage easily. Do you think you could go without worrying? Kids are kids- no matter how well behaved they are with their parents around, who knows what they might be thinking about doing when left home alone. Why not try a weekend away first? Whatever you do, I would strongly suggest you have an adult you can count on who can check up or who can deal with anything that happens when you are away.
When my son was younger we did have a holiday on our own one year but my son stayed with my mam so I felt at ease. When he was older and still lived at home I was more worried tbh as, even though my mam had threatened to 'turn up unannounced' to check up, I was still anxious about the mess we'd find on our return.
It all depends on how mature your children are.
It all depends on how mature your children are.
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