For photo ID you can always make a copy of your passport pages then just leave the original somewhere safe.
It doesn't make sense to make plans to go somewhere that you have to be 21 to participate in drinking and gambling and then ask "how
strict are they?"
If you are used to the liberal UK drinking laws where teens of all ages are allowed in, it will come as a shock to find that you HAVE to be 21.
No one is going to face the real risk of losing their licence and livelihood so that your family members don't get left out.