Hi
Happy New Year!

I have a big problem. I am so in love with my boyfriend whose from Tunisia (Hammamet) and I just came back from Tunis after I stayed there for a week, and this time he asked me to married him and I said yes, and I am so happy.

But my biggest problem is, how to I tell my parents this and the rest of my family, because I know this will be a problem for them, because their are very religious and I know they will be very sad if I get married to a muslim.

But I have never been happier, never felt like this about anyone before and never loved anyone as much I have love him, and I know he feels the same.

So, does anyone have a good idea have I can tell my family this news??

Hi, Are your parents aware that you have a Tunisian boyfriend and its him you go to visit while on your hols?
Is your boyfriend aware of your familys religious beliefs, and when you get married where would you want to live?
I think if they are aware of your boyfriend and havent objected so far things might not be too bad.
Rach x

I would think a lot may depend how long you have known him. They will obviously be concerned, not only because of the difference in religious beliefs but also because of the difference in life-style. I know lots of marriages such as this work out very happily, as many on this site will testify, but sadly others are not so successful. I would suggest that you don't get married too soon but give your family time to get used to the idea and preferably to meet him, which will help to allay their fears. If he can visit you at home in the meantime they will be able to see how much you care for eachother and then hopefully they will feel able to give you their wholehearted blessing and support. I do wish you all the very best and hope things work out well for you both.

I was ripped off and beaten within an inch of my life by someone from Hammamet. If you have only spent a few days with him with you in a hotel....don't marry him yet.

If you have spent some time in his country, a couple of months away from hotels and plenty of money in your pocket then you will know where I am coming from.

Have you been to the family home, does he have somewhere for you to live. Please spend time with him, before you marry. it's easy to get into, but not out of.

Congratulations, but please don't lose your head.

maybe i've been a bit harsh.... but if you are in a relationship that your family don't know about... are you going too fast........... maybe you've been together for a whil, but this doesn't come accross.

Just be careful!

Hi

Thank you all for your advice..

I have known my boyfriend for six months now, and have told him that it is too soon to get married after only six months..so we are gonna wait a little bit more.

So maby we are gonna get married next year, because I wanna know him a little bit more.

*edit please do not post in phone text thanks Briar

I think that is very wise as it does take time to get to know someone, even when you are from the same area and have the same culture. It is a thousand times harder when there is a distance between you and you can't be together as often as you would like. Get to know him and his family and friends and also see if he can go to Denmark to see you in your home environment with your family so you will both have more of an idea of what you are getting in to. I wish you both the best of luck for the future.

I am marrying my fiance who is tunisian on the 8th april this year. we have been together for 18 months, and i am very fortunate to have been out there every 6 weeks on average. We share the cost of my trips, and his family are lovely to me. His mum cant wait for us to get married. She is always feeding me, and giving me things. I have just returned after a two week break, and we have booked the wedding, so i am very excited! it is hard work to have a long distance relationship, but if you love someone, then it will work out! His mum has shown me the gold jewellery she is passing on to me after we marry, and it has been in the family for years!
we have been refused a holiday visa twice now, but the embassy are well aware that we planned to get married, and that we are planning to live in the uk, as i have a little boy, and evrything he knows is here. all of this takes time, to get to know someone, really you are only having "holiday time" with that person, but you know when someone loves you. my little boys dad did not love me, and it was obvious, thats why i ended up bringing him up on my own for 8 years!
i wish you the best of luck, and as the others said, try not to rush it, the authorities can be terribly suspicious, as can your family and friends.

emma x

Many congratulations Emma. I hope you will all be very happy. It certainly sounds as if your relationship is built on very solid ground and it is lovely that his family is so welcoming. Do keep in touch and if you are able to post some pictures of the wedding I'm sure we would all love to see them.

You read so many horror stories of women being duped by a holiday romance that it's nice when it works out.
All the best Emma.
Sweetbox - I think you are making the right decision in waiting. Get to know him more outside of your holidays and intorduce him to your parents.

congratulations on setting your wedding date Emma!

Sweet box.... take your time..... and don't start paying for things esp mobiles, trainers etc,, its a slippery slope.

Having said that, it's exciting..... introduce the idea to your family slowly...

Hi Sweet box ,

Congratulations on your engagement, i too am engaged to my Tunisian boyfriend and we are getting married in April. I remember when i first told my parents. They knew we were together but werent expecting this at all!!! However they were really supportive and told me that as long as i am happy they will support me.

I was really lucky. Some other members of my family and friends were more dubious but gradually came round to the idea as they all want me to be happy. Now many of them will be coming to the wedding.

I think you need to be brave and tell your family, i expect they will give you words of warning first as they care about you, but they will come to accept it and even help you!!

Good Luck

Cath

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Hi everyone
Well i thought i would set you all a challenge!!
My boyfiend was born in Tunisia his mother is tunisian and his father is italian....
He lives and has residency in Italy, we are planning to marry as soon as possible, the problems we have encountered is that we hope to marry in Italy but do not know where we could marry? in a registry office? in the embassy? if so which embassy tunisian british or italian?
gosh so many questions and i thougt i'd done my homework!!
Do we need to apply for a marriage visa? how long it would take for him to be able to live with me in the uk?
Do i need to get a certificate of non-impedimet?
If anyone can help me with this i would be so grateful
Thanks
Sue x

Hi,

If your boyfriend has or is able to apply for italian citizenship on the basis of his father's nationality then that is possible the easiestway for him to join you in living within the UK. With it he has no need to apply for a visa etc for England - as a citizen of another EU country he would have automatic right of entry to the UK. Also, as EU citizens it would probably make all the wedding arrangements easier too.

SM

cylight - you mention you didnt have enough paperwork, may i ask what you did have?

My boyfriend wants to come over but is paranoid that he will be declined a visa for some reason - he also thinks it leaves a black mark on passport - so to speak.

I can complete the form,provide the letter, bank statements , wage slips and his employer will provide a letter but he thinks there is more required. Is there?

Thanks in advance

Hi there,

the reason we didnt get it is because my mum was acting as sponsor and we only provided one bank statement, the letter, the form and one statement of my savings. They said they wanted a bigger picture of household spending mortgage, bills etc to show we still had enough money to support him after paying these.

We also put in his birth certificate, national identity card, passport, letter from employer stating employment and holiday being allowed. They will ask how he got given holiday too.

Basically just provide as much evidence as you can that you have enough money to pay for everything and specify who will buy flights and what with.

Its pretty stressful waiting and we were gutted, but they did say that the refusal would not affect future applications. We are getting married in April and hope he will be able to come here then!!!

Anyway good luck let me know how it all goes. Tell your boyfriend to be brave it will be worth it if he gets it!!!
Cath

Cath

Thanks for everything there, The stress this causing since we first spoke of him visiting here is unreal.

Well my bank balance sees plenty go in but plenty come out each month also - . Think i will go for taking dad's stuff along also as a second sponsor will that assist do you think?

Hiya,

yes i think that would help. After i get married on 31st of March we will apply for my hubbys visa using my parents financial evidence as extra support. They have also written a letter saying they will support us and accept him as there responsibility.

Good luck, keep me posted.

Cath