Hiya
First timer eh? I have read all the comments posted, and I agree with some, others, lets say I will agree to disagree.
Travelled to Turkey for over 12 years, and have always stayed AI, and yes, before others start screaming,.........going sc or B&B does afford some people more freedom to eat where they want, and wander back to their hotel when they want, but, if the poster wants 3/4* hotel that is AI, then I think she has the situation sussed. If she has the hotel of good standards, that offers good food, and drinks, (which when you have kids, thats where the cashola goes) then the family can eat breakfast, have a couple of drinks, and then go on a wander round, or jump on a dolmus. They could eat out quite well at lunch times for about £20 for the whole family. Buy bottled water from any little shop for a few lira, and then back to the hotel for the evening meal, drinks, ice cream for the kids, and entertainment, and keep their money for another day.
We have stayed in Kemer, Alanya, Belek, Side, and Lara Beach in the Antalya area, the hotels here are fantastic for the luxury factor, offer the whole family everything they could want within the complex, and food and drink usually on a 24 hour basis, most are very high quality, but that comes with a high price tag. The only problem with some of the regions is, once outside the hotels, you have very few places to go, and it is a bit samey. Antalya is a fantastic place to visit, as is Side, Side has the most beautiful beach, and good shopping, although you do get hassled in the main street.
Olu Deniz, Fethiye, Dalyan and Icmeler are also lovely places, beautiful walks, beaches, places to see, fantastic boat trips, and the views are stunning.
Kusadasi may be a place where you could find everything you would want, good hotels, fantastic beach, brilliant shopping, the harbour where the cruise liners come in is brilliant, especially the ice cream vendors......yummy. Have priced a hotel up in Kusadasi recently for friends (Ephesus Princess) good prices, excellent facilities for kids, and free child places up to age 12) it is near Ephesus too, and that is one trip you must do, amazing.
Best place to fly into for us, is Bodrum airport, We have stayed in Torba, Gumbet, Turgutreis, and Bodrum itself, and we are returning to Torba twice next year. It offers the best hotels, the best views, amazing boat trips, sunsets to die for, the people are friendly, kind and always have so much time to spend just talking with you. There are some excellent hotels that I think would suit your pocket in any of these areas, and there are so many places to visit and some of the beaches, coves and bays would be superb for the whole of the family. Bodrum itself, isn't all that, no beach, and quite busy, but catch a Dolmus from there to any other little village or town, have a walk around the castle, or go across to Kos for the day, the choices are endless. Plus if you have a day into Turgutreis on a Saturday morning when one of the biggest markets I have ever seen is on, the bargains you will find will please your wife no end. Most things priced in Turkish Lira in Turgutreis and surrounding area, the bigger places usually price up in Euros, which can confuse, but someone will put you right on that score.
The time of year you are going is the best time in my opinion, we go in May and again in Mid September, beautiful days, slightly cooler nights, so better for sleeping, and at least you can walk round in a little more comfort.
I would thoroughly recommend Turkey as a destination, and whichever region you decide on will only bring you endless amounts of joy, I hope you find a hotel that suits your needs, and should you want any suggestions, well, my name is on the top, drop me a message.
Happy hunting.